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Bryan Golden

Complaining

Is complaining an effective strategy for solving problems? Will complaining improve your situation? Do others enjoy listening to you complain? The answer to all three questions is no. Then why do people complain?
There are a number of reasons a person complains. He or she may be looking for sympathy, assistance, support, or just letting off steam. There are also people who are habitual whiners who are never satisfied or content.
In the case of sympathy, there is an erroneous assumption that if enough other people feel sorry for them, it will somehow improve the complainer’s situation. All that will be accomplished is that others will grow tired of their moaning and give them a wide berth. Everyone has their own problems and very few people want to spend their discretionary time listening to the tales of woe of others.
Sympathy seekers tend to dwell on their problems rather than seeking solutions. When potential solutions are presented, they invariably find fault with and summarily dismiss them. These complainers seek attention and monopolize conversations. They look for opportunities to show how their plight is worse than everyone else’s.
Spending time with sympathy seekers can be draining. They are consumed with their own situation and show little or no interest in other people. Regardless of how good you may feel, a gripe session with a sympathy seeker will depress your mood.
Some complainers are looking for assistance in solving a problem. In this case they are interested in advice that will lead to a solution. The danger here is that they will indiscriminately seek guidance from anyone. In their attempt to overcome an obstacle, they will try virtually any remedy offered without considering the qualifications of the source.
Following bad advice can exacerbate a problem. Advice seekers that jump from one bad suggestion to another will become frustrated as they fail to solve their problem. The result is the erroneous conclusion that their situation has no solution.
Complainers in search of advice must be very selective in whom they approach. Only those who have successfully solved similar problems or who have appropriate expertise should be sought out. When the right person is identified, they should be asked for advice directly rather than complaining to them.
Perhaps a complainer is looking for support. They may be overwhelmed by unexpected events or overloaded with responsibilities. This type of complainer is likely looking for help rather than advice. If you are so inclined, offer to lend a hand.
Even when they are helped out, some complainers always wind up in another crisis situation. Helping them out again will only improve their situation temporarily. Without a change in strategy, they will soon become immersed in another crisis.
Complainers who are incessant whiners find fault with virtually everything. They complain about their lives, other people’s lives, the weather, politics, religion, society, etc. Everything they comment on is flawed. All of life is tainted. Their glass is always half empty and probably leaking. These people are not happy unless they are unhappy.
Whiners will never be satisfied. They don’t want sympathy, solutions, or help. They just want to complain. These people will never change and their minds are closed to new ideas. Your only option is to limit exposure to their griping.
Complaining is unproductive and destructive. If you have problems, find solutions. If you need help, ask. Occasional complaining to seek understanding or let off steam is ok. But don’t make it a way of life or a topic of every conversation.

Unrestrained Juvenile Driver Killed in St. Landry Parish Crash

ST. LANDRY PARISH – On January 16, 2023, shortly after 9:00 p.m., Louisiana State Police Troop I was notified of a two-vehicle crash on Interstate 49 near mile marker 22 in St. Landry Parish. The crash claimed the life of 17-year-old Jaquanta T. Jason (female) of Washington.
The initial investigation by State Police revealed Jason, who was unlicensed, was driving a 2005 Toyota Camry south on I-49 at a high rate of speed. For reasons still under investigation, the Camry rear-ended a 2015 Volvo 18-wheeler pulling a sugar cane trailer.
Jason was unrestrained and was pronounced dead at the scene by the St. Landry Parish Coroner’s Office. The driver of the 18-wheeler was restrained and not injured.
A standard toxicology sample was obtained from Jason for analysis. The 18-wheeler driver submitted a breath sample indicating no alcohol present and showed no signs of impairment. This crash remains under investigation.
This crash is unfortunately an example of the many driving issues troopers encounter on a daily basis. Speeding, inattention, lack of seat belt usage, and inexperience are factors that are all major contributors to crashes that occur on our roads every day. Please make good decisions when behind the wheel because crashes are unexpected, permanent, and can be prevented. For information on the graduated driver’s license visit: https://www.expresslane.org/drivers/driver-s-education-guides/
Troop I has investigated 7 fatal crashes resulting in 8 deaths in 2023.

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Melise Marie Broussard

August 6, 1926 ~ January 13, 2023

ABBEVILLE — A Mass of Christian Burial was held at 11:00 AM on Monday, January 16, 2023 at St. Mary Magdalen Catholic Church, honoring the life of Melise Marie Meaux Broussard, age 96, who passed Friday, January 13, 2023 at Abbeville General Hospital surrounded by her family. She was laid to rest at St. Mary Magdalen Cemetery with Fr. Charles Esuaiko officiating the services.
Melise graduated from SLI with B.A. in education. Survived living in a house with five teenagers at one time. She was a teacher for 25 years, a farmer’s/teacher’s wife and doting grandmother. Her hobbies included reading, travel, music and corresponding with French relatives. She also enjoyed collecting and refinishing antiques. She loved spending time traveling and going on vacation with many trips to Canada, Europe and Mexico. She also took many tours throughout the U.S.
She is survived by her sons, Gerald A. Broussard and Winston C. Broussard; daughters, Denise B. Purvis and Claire A. Broussard; 13 grandchildren; and 35 great grandchildren.
She was preceded in death by her husband, Chester J. Broussard; son, Barton John Broussard; and brothers, D.J. Meaux and Dave Meaux.
Visitation was observed at Vincent Funeral Home in Abbeville, 209 S. St. Charles St. Melise’s children, grandchildren and great grandchildren were joined by extended family and friends to share stories, hugs and celebrate her life.
Condolences may be sent to the family at www.vincentfuneralhome.net.
All funeral arrangements are being conducted by Vincent Funeral Home of Abbeville, (337) 893-4661.

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The Sheriff’s SWAT Unit made their way to the front door of the home and looked inside and then walked away.

Standoff in Abbeville ends peacefully

Man gives himself up to law enforcement

After hours of negotiating, an Abbeville man ended a standoff by walking out the front door peacefully.
Neighbors and family members waited patiently as law enforcement tried to convince a male subject to end a standoff Monday afternoon. Finally, law enforcement told the man that his father was here to speak with him and bring him to a local hospital to seek help.
Minutes before the man gave himself up, the Sheriff’s SWAT Unit walked up to the front door, looked inside the home, and then backed off by walking away.
At around 2:50 p.m., the man opened the front door with his hands up in the air.
The neighbors and family members cheered when they saw him.
At press time, it is unknown if any charges were filed against the man. His name was not released.

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Tyrone Glover (3) of Abbeville High School puts up a jump shot earlier this season. Glover, who is averaging about 20 points a game, exploded for 38 in a 63-61 win at Comeaux on Tuesday.

Guard has big night for Abbeville High

Glover, one of six Wildcats seniors, exploded for 38 points vs. Comeaux

Tyrone Glover has carried the scoring load for the Abbeville High Wildcats for much of the 2022-23 basketball season so far.
But even head coach Trevor Eaton was surprised when he saw that his senior guard had scored 38 points on Tuesday in a non-district win at Comeaux.
“To be honest with you I didn’t realize he even had 38 until I checked the scorebook after the game,” Eaton said. “But he’s been averaging 20 points a game for us, so he’s the guy who carries the load for us when it comes to scoring. He always plays with energy. He sets the tone for us when it comes to our energy and how we want to play basketball.
“Traditionally, Abbeville has always been a fast-paced team. We always like to get out and run, so he fits right into the system that we have in place in order for us to be successful. Him, along with Chad Nolan as well. Those two guys right there, they’re really our motor.”
Glover said that he scored a lot of his points against Comeaux in transition.
“Our pace is fast and we’re defensive minded. so we’ve got to get serious (on defense) to get points,” Glover said, adding that is the style he likes to play. “We need to improve on our half court offense and we need to get more disciplined on the defensive side to beat a lot of teams.”
Glover and Nolan are guards and two of the team’s six seniors, along with Derrian Washington, Jaysen Shelvin, Tyler Cherry and Jaydeon Turner.
“In our system we don’t have a true point guard,” Eaton said. “We kind of keep it open to where pretty much anybody can handle the ball for us. Where we’re successful at is off of defense. And that’s where he scores most of his points. He scores most of his points in transition off of defensive stops. Our defense has been really good as a team. We’re able to get a lot of defensive stops and we push the ball.”
The Wildcats were off to a 10-5 start heading into Friday’s District 5-3A opener against Crowley. Abbeville has nearly identical offensive and defensive numbers, having scored 733 points and allowed 731 for an average of 48.8 points scored and 48.7 points allowed a game. AHS has allowed a season high of 70 points and has only given up 60 or more in four games while holding teams to under 50 on six occasions.
“I guess he’s just been lucky enough to be the guy who ends up open in our transition offense,” Eaton said.
Prior to being named head coach this year, Eaton was an assistant to head coach Berwick Hamilton, for whom Eaton played. He then worked with AHS head coach Colby Batiste, now head coach at Highland Baptist, and afterwards with Wildcats head coach Nolan Theriot, now head coach at North Vermilion.
“(Hamilton) is pretty much who I learned the game from,” Eaton said. “We’ve struggled a little bit the last few years. We’ve been struggling defensively and offensively. Our halfcourt offense is still a little trouble for us. We’re having a little trouble being successful on the offensive side, halfcourt wise. That’s why our transition offense and our defense is really very important for us to be able to be successful.”
Eaton said that the first thing he told the team before the Wildcats started playing summer league ball was that the team wouldn’t be successful without playing well defensively.
“If we can’t play defense, if we can’t stop anybody, if we don’t hang our hats on defense, if we can’t buy into it, we’re not going to be successful. And the group of seniors that I’ve got, they really took that to heart based off of previous years, and the facts. The guys have been working hard on the defensive end.”
Glover said Eaton has stressed discipline on and off the court.
“He always wanted us to stay disciplined and to play our game and not to be scared, not only on the court but outside the court, in the classroom,” Glover said. “He always taught us that we have to stay disciplined, that we’ve always got to be accountable, and that we always have to have communication not only on the court but off the court.”
Glover said the team knows defense is the key for the Wildcats’ success this year.
“We’ve got to get very disciplined on the defensive side because that’s how we’re going to beat a lot of good teams in the future.”
Four of the seniors also played football for a team that reached the semifinals in 2021 and the second round of the playoffs this year. It’s not only the seniors who are buying into the basketball team’s philosophy, though.
“It’s team success right here, true team success,” Eaton said. “They’ve been playing together for the last 10 years when it comes to youth sports and all that, so they’re all used to each other. They’re all used to playing with each other. It’s really helped us build our program back to where it used to be.”
Glover said a lot of players are contributing, not just the seniors.
“We’ve got some sophomores and freshmen and juniors that are stepping up a little bit to help,” he said. “Our goal is just to build a future and build more discipline for our team for people to have a good image of our team.”
Glover said a lot of fans mention St. Martinville when talking about the Wildcats’ district schedule.
“We’ve got to play our game,” he said. “We can’t let anybody tell us what we can and cannot do.”

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Lester Thomas Meaux

December 3, 1954 - January 12, 2023

A Funeral Mass will be held on Wednesday, January 18, 2023, at 1:00 pm in St. Mary Magdalen Catholic Church in Abbeville for Lester Thomas Meaux, age 68, who passed away at The Carpenter House on Thursday, January 12, 2023, in Lafayette.
Reverend Donald Bernard, Pastor of St. Edward Catholic Church will officiate the Funeral Mass.
Visitation will be held on Tuesday, January 17, 2023, from 10:00 am until 8:00 pm in the Chapel of Cypress Funeral Home in Maurice, and continuing Wednesday, January 18, 2023, from 9:00 am until the time of service.
A Rosary will be recited by Deacon Keith Duhon on Tuesday, January 17, 2023, at 6:30 pm in the Chapel of Cypress Funeral Home.
Lester was born on December 3, 1954, in Abbeville and he was a lifelong resident of Vermilion Parish. After graduating from Abbeville High School in 1972, he worked in the Oil and Gas Industry, then went on to work for the United States Postal Service as a mail carrier for over 20 years. Lester was involved in Taekwondo as well as other martial arts. He was a keen chess player, enjoyed watching football, and was a devoted New Orleans Saints fan. Lester loved spending time with his grandchildren and the rest of this family and he especially enjoyed bringing his wife to the beach. He will be dearly missed.
Lester is survived by his loving wife of 30 years, Cheryl Duhon Meaux of Abbeville; his two children, Jimmy Sandridge (Jill) of Prairieville and Jessica Sandridge of Abbeville; his five grandchildren, Rosalie Sandridge, Juliette Sandridge, Kirsten Peter, Adalyn Peter, and Carter Sandridge; his two siblings, Merline Delahoussaye of Beaumont, TX and Betty Meaux (Randy) of New Iberia; along with a host of nieces, nephews, and dear friends.
He was preceded in death by his parents, Thomas and Leona Meaux; his sister, Anna Cessac; as well as his mother and father-in-law, Sherry and Josephine Duhon.
Pallbearers will be: Jimmy Sandridge, Carter Sandridge, Josh Duhon, Bobby Duhon, Tony Legros, and Robert Legros.
The family wishes to offer a heartfelt thank you to the nurses, doctors, and staff at The Carpenter House of St. Joseph Hospice as well as Ochsner Transplant and Oncology Department for the care and compassion they offered Lester and his family during his time of need.
Cypress Funeral Home & Crematory, 206 W. Lafayette St., Maurice, LA 70555, (337) 740- 3123, is in charge of Funeral arrangements.

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Don Martin Landry

It is with heavy hearts that the family of Don Martin Landry announce his passing away on Friday, January 13, 2023 at Abbeville General Hospital with family members at his side. Don was 64 years old. At his personal request, No funeral or memorial service will be held.
A native of Kaplan, Don worked in the oil and gas industry for many years as an inspector.
Don is survived by his daughter, Brooke Landry Degueyter and her husband Josh; his grandchildren, Hayden and Hendrix; his sisters, Patsy Arena, Marlene Greene, and Marisa Harrington; and his brothers, Van Landry and Chris Landry; and numerous beloved nieces and nephews who were very dear to Don.
He was preceded in death by his parents, Maurice and Florence Landry.
Don will always be remembered for his huge heart, his contagious smile, and his vibrant sense of humor.
View the obituary and guestbook online at www.mourning.com
Martin & Castille - SOUTHSIDE, 600 E. Farrel Road Lafayette, Louisiana 70508, 337-984-2811.

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Mrs. Will Rand Sampson

Colleen Erin Maeve O’Connor and Will Rand Sampson United in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony

A holiday wedding, on December 10th, 2022, in Fort Collins, Co., united Colleen Erin Maeve O’Connor and Will Rand Sampson in Holy Matrimony. The ceremony took place in St. Joseph Catholic Church with Reverend Simon Kalonga officiating.
Colleen is the daughter of Karen Ann O’Connor of Denver, Co and the granddaughter of Lynn Gooch and the late Coach William “Bill” Gooch, Jr. of Abbeville, La.
Will is the son of Dave and Tracey Sampson of Fort Collins, Co.
With her talent as a designer and seamstress, Colleen, over a period of several months, was able to design and construct her own wedding dress, veil, train and reception dress. It was sewn primarily on her 1930 Singer Featherweight, a family heirloom machine. The gown was initially inspired by the French Chemise a la Reine creation. Designed and modernized with flounce sleeves and a reduced neckline ruffle, the dress featured silk chiffon layered with silk charmeuse, lined with bamberg rayon and a lettuce hem. The veil and train consisted of additional applique and four yards of tulle. She carried a bouquet of silk flowers and a handkerchief carried by her great-grandmother, grandmother, and mother during their wedding ceremonies.
The bride was attended by bridesmaids Hayley Sampson (groom’s sister) of Los Angeles, Ca, Allyson Meredith-Hollier of San Francisco, Ca, Brooke Watkins of Lafayette, La, and Frances Wertimer of Baltimore, Md. Each bridesmaid chose their own dress for the ceremony. The flower girls, cousins of the groom, were Lea Norwood and Adirah Lee-Stiles.
Groomsmen were Mickey Luberda of St. Louis, Mo, Taylor Ray of Ft. Collins, Co, Chris Leja of Boston, Ma, and Matt Scroggins of New Orleans, La.
Scripture readings were offered by Mickey Luberda, Hayley Sampson, Dave Sampson, and Bill Gooch. The organist was Mary Lou Lybarger and the soloist was Rachel Kujawa.
The reception was held at the Lincoln Center in Fort Collins. For the wedding party and invited guests, a welcome dinner on December 8th, and a farewell brunch on December 11th, was hosted by Dave and Tracey Sampson at their home.
Colleen is a 2012 graduate of Lafayette High School and attended the Univ. of Louisiana-Lafayette majoring in English. She is currently employed as manager of Pedigo Electric Bikes and runs her own growing business as a fashion designer and custom seamstress. Will is a graduate of Rocky Mountain High School in Fort Collins and a 2013 graduate of Tulane University in New Orleans, La. Currently he is employed by May Trucking Co. The couple enjoyed a week long honeymoon in Puerto Rico and will reside in Fort Collins, Co.

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Kim Guidry sits behind her desk in her office surrounded by pictures and plaques of teams she has coached over the last 38 years at VC.

900 Wins! Vermilion Catholic's Guidry ranks among the top winningest girls basketball coach in state

Vermilion Catholic’s basketball coach Kim “Gidge” Guidry, continues to climb the ladder of success. On Tuesday, the Lady Eagles beat Covenant Chrisitan 36-27 on the road. That victory gave Guidry her 900th win at VC.
In 2017 she won her 800th game, and in 2015 she won her 751st game.
Guidry, 64, said it is not about her because she did not play one game.
“It is all about the girls who come through the program,” she said. “I have been fortunate to have coachable girls.”
Guidry will coach for at least three more years, which could give her another 35 to 50 wins.
Although there is no official all-time win-loss list for girls’ high school coaches in Louisiana, 900 wins puts Guidry high on the list.
At least three high school girls’ coaches were voted into the Louisiana Sports Hall of Fame with 900-plus wins.
Carris Baker has coached for 39 years, won eight state titles, and won 972 games in north Louisiana.
Also, Steve McDowell, who coaches at Southwood High and won 12 state titles, has 981 wins.
Geraldine “Jelly” Pigott coached at Jena High from 1952 to 1970 has just over 900 wins, and is in the Lousiana Sports Hall of Fame.
Guidry became the head coach at VC for the 1985-1986 season. She replaced Earl Heitz, who retired.
Upperclassmen players on her first high team were Michelle LaPorte, Laura Carlos, Racheal Broussard, Erika Minnick, Kathy Sellers and Lynn Veazey.
Angela Dubois Gallet graduated from VC in 1990. She was the MVP of the district and helped the Lady Eagles to a 32-7 record. Today, for the last 15 years, Gallet has been assisting Guidry on the bench as an assistant coach.
In 2017, Gallet and other players contemplated as to what has made Guidry so successful over the last 37 years.
Gallet said, “Her dedication for the last 30 years to the Vermilion Catholic Lady Eagles’ program is indescribable. Her years of service prove her love for the game and Catholic education.
“She has always said that ‘she’ is the one who is blessed to see so many young ladies come through the doors of VC and become fine young women. But to tell you the truth, we, her players and former players, were taught that selfless dedication to a particular cause could reap many rewards. She has been a staple of consistency at Vermilion Catholic and has taught me that we receive in giving.
“Her love for the game has gotten her to where she is now: and her love for VC will carry her for many years to come.”
Danielle LaPorte David was a freshman when Guidry began coaching at VC.
David said in 2017, “I know Gidge would say that her continued success is a direct reflection of the girls that she coaches. This is true to an extent. However, her passion for basketball and her compassion for the girls she coaches cannot be discounted.”

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New Boys & Girls Club Director Kimberly Bessard speaks during a recent city council meeting.

Bessard is new Abbeville Boys & Girls Club director

There is a is a new face overseeing the Boys & Girls Club in Abbeville, albeit a familiar one.
Kimberly Bessard is the new director of the local club, which is located at A.A. Comeaux Park. She has been with the club for several years.
Bessard recently attended an Abbeville City Council meeting to introduce herself to local officials. Councilwoman Terry Broussard invited Bessard to the meeting.
“I was born and raised here,” Bessard said proudly.
Bessard said the club’s after-school program and summer program are a main focus. The after school program is from 3 p.m. to 7 p.m., Mondays through Fridays. The summer program is from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. on weekdays. These programs are a focus because it allows the club to focus on what is really important.
“We service the kids who need us most,” Bessard said. “Whoever needs us at that time, that’s who we serve in the community.”
The Abbeville club is one of seven under the Boys & Girls Club of Acadiana. Bessard said some of the board members recently visited Abbeville to see where upgrades and improvements could be made at the facility.
“They are some things that have been in there since the 1990s,” Bessard said.
Among the older items are photos that show large numbers of kids who have taken part in the club. Bessard said those photos can serve as an inspiration.
“We want to grow the club,” Bessard said. “I see those photos and say that is what we want to get back to. We want to bring that back to the community.”
A few years ago, then Abbeville Director Brian Ford asked Bessard where she wanted to be in five years.
“I told him I wanted to have his position,” Bessard said.
Ford, who is now the director of development at the main office in Lafayette, said he is pleased that Bessard does now have his position.
“I am excited to pass the reins to Kimberly,” Ford said. “Her past experience in working with youth along with her enthusiasm makes her an asset to the Boys & Girls Club and this community. I look forward to supporting Kimberly as the new Director and will still be involved from a resource development standpoint ensuring the club continues to garner the necessary resources to operate and grow to serve more youth.”
Broussard said she is excited to see what Bessard can do.
“I just want you to know that we are here for you,” Broussard said.
Bessard is ready to work with anyone and everyone for the sake of the kids who attend the Boys & Girls Club in Abbeville.
“If you want to come by and visit,” Bessard said, “please, come by and visit. I am listening. I am talking to a lot of the parents in the community to see what we need to grow the Boys & Girls Club.”

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